TIME in the Word - Daily Devotional Together for Inspiration, Motivation, and Encouragement
Verse of the Day - Ephesians 6:4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
Puritan Catechism Question #49 - Which is the fourth commandment?
Answer - The fourth commandment is, "Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, but the seventh day is the Sabbath of the LORD your God. In it you shall do no work: you, nor your son, nor your daughter, nor your male servant, nor your female servant, nor your cattle, nor your stranger who is within your gates. For in six days the LORD made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, and rested the seventh day. Therefore the LORD blessed the Sabbath day and hallowed it" (Ex 20:8-11).
Devotional Thoughts God has created us as male and female. Why? Part of the answer is that God has created us so that we might have a lifetime partnership through marriage and a lineage through parenting. We have seen in the last few devotionals that God has a purpose for children and that He has a plan for parenting. Our last two devotionals have focused on Proverbs 22:6 which tell us, "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." Today we will continue that study and add to it Ephesians 6:4, "And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord."
We train up a child in the way he should go by being sensitive and discerning, recognizing God’s call, gifts, and talents in the life of our children. Picking up where we left off last time we will examine a few specific steps for training our children in the way they should go. Remember, we all need to be trained! We all need to be taught. And we all need to know the difference between right and wrong. This absolute truth brings us to our need for a Savior, because without Him we cannot do what is right and will only do what is wrong, bringing shame upon our family and our lives.
How then do we train up our children in the way they should go? Simply put, we TRAIN them. We can use the word itself to serve as an outline to remind us and teach us how to do what we have been commanded to do. Let us see then what each letter in the word TRAIN stands for as we apply God's Plan for Parenting.
So far we have seen that the T stands for Train - that is, it is God's plan for parents to disciple their children. This involves mentoring, guiding, teaching, and instructing them. The R we saw stands for Restrain, wherein is the responsibility of every parent to restrain their children from evil! This speaks of discipline - not punishment, but instruction for right living and correction for sinful actions and attitudes.
Now we will see what the A, I, and N stand for as we train our children in the fear and admonition of the Lord.
A
The A tells us that we should Admonish our children in the Lord. The word means to encourage. Often we think of encouragement as attempting to make someone feel good or regain a proper perspective after a let down. But the word actually means to warn, instruct, and counsel.
We warn about the danger of sin. We instruct in how to avoid sin. And we counsel so that our children are wise when it comes to knowing the difference between good and evil. This is critical, because many parents and many Christians think that in order to know that something is wrong we must have all the dirty details. In reality though all our children need to know to recognize evil and sin is the truth! If they are familiar with the truth then they will recognize the lie.
Do we admonish one another in the church and in the home? Do we even know how?? It is a command you know. We admonish even in the corporate worship of the church. Colossians 3:16 says, "Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord." So if we do not know what it is to admonish one another then we must deal with the hard truth that we do not know how to worship God!!
Part of teaching in the home and the church is that the older are to admonish the younger - to encourage and instruct them in holy living, to teach them their duties and respective God given roles. We must teach our boys how to be godly men and we must teach our girls how to be godly women. Being holy and being mature in godliness does not just happen - it is taught. And this is part of God's plan for parenting.
I
The I in TRAIN stands for a word that we have already used quite a bit to describe the role of parents - it is that we Instruct in Righteousness, that is we teach our children how to be right with God. Have you considered that your primary mission field on this earth is your own family? Do your children know Jesus Christ? Are they growing in grace and being discipled by you so that they might follow after, love, and obey our Savior?
To understand how it is that we are to instruct our children we need to look at the tool for instruction that we have been given. The tool is or should be rather obvious - it is the Word of God. 2 Tim 3:16-17 tells us, "All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work." Do we approach parenting as if the desired end result was that our children were mature and equipped for good works done in obedience to God? Too often our goal is outward conformity to societal standards. But God is more concerned about the heart! And it is our task as parents to teach our children not just how to act, but how to BE. And the Word of God is the inspired and all sufficient tool that He has given us to teach our children how to live and be godly.
We must also pause here to note that it is the clear teaching of Scripture that parents are primarily responsible for the teaching of their children - in all areas of life! While we may assign part of that duty to schools and teachers, we must never lose sight of the fact that God will hold us accountable for what our children are taught. This means more than that we should be involved and aware of what our children are learning - it means we are called and equipped by God to be their primary teachers. This is God's plan for parenting. Parents are the teachers and children are their students.
Consider these verses, as they need no comment:
“Now this is the commandment, and these are the statutes and judgments which the LORD your God has commanded to teach you, that you may observe them in the land which you are crossing over to possess, that you may fear the LORD your God, to keep all His statutes and His commandments which I command you, you and your son and your grandson, all the days of your life, and that your days may be prolonged. Therefore hear, O Israel, and be careful to observe it, that it may be well with you, and that you may multiply greatly as the LORD God of your fathers has promised you—‘a land flowing with milk and honey.’ “Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one! You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. - Deut 6:1-8
Only take heed to yourself, and diligently keep yourself, lest you forget the things your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. And teach them to your children and your grandchildren, especially concerning the day you stood before the LORD your God in Horeb, when the LORD said to me, ‘Gather the people to Me, and I will let them hear My words, that they may learn to fear Me all the days they live on the earth, and that they may teach their children.’ - Deut 4:9-10
“Therefore you shall lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. And you shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, that your days and the days of your children may be multiplied in the land of which the LORD swore to your fathers to give them, like the days of the heavens above the earth. - Deut 11:18-21
To be clear here, God has assigned parents to be the teachers of their children – Prov 1:8; Eph 6:4; Prov 22:6 - and God’s program for education is discipleship - Deut 6:5-7.
N
To conclude here then we see that the N represents Nurture. This is tender care as we serve as Guardians for our children. Nurture is not hard to understand but it is difficult to implement! Too often we parent with an attitude of superiority, even thinking condescending thoughts toward our children. They are after all needy, and we cannot pursue self gratification and be good parents both at the same time!
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